How do you treat situations?

When you have someone that has given you some advice on how to view life, you are set for life. When John’s father said to John, “John, everything depends on how you want to look at what happens in life. If doesn’t make a difference what is going on ‘out there’-What makes a difference is how you take it.”

Its all a matter of perception

Instead of John being taught that his glass was half-empty, his father taught him “your glass is half-full.” He taught him to view life as something that was continually opening and expanding with new opportunities and events to enjoy.

Somewhere John’s dad picked up a bit of quantum physics theory. Depending on the kind of experiment you conduct, a particle of light can become a light beam or a light wave. It all depends on how you want to examine it. The light can change form, not because of its properties-it still remains light-but because of how you choose to behold it. John’s dad taught him that ugliness or beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Want and abundance are in the eye of the beholder. Being mediocre or being the best depends on the eye of the beholder.
John’s father had taught John to have a good self-esteem of himself. So, at school, what other kids said about John or did mattered little to John. Just like John’s father usually told John, “ I used to care about what people said about me, till one day I tried to pay my bill with their opinions.” What mattered to me was the way I handled what others might do or say.

She used the moment and 'became' an angel, you need to use your situations too, get the best out of them

It doesn’t matter what’s going on out there, what makes a difference is how you take it.
Grandma, was another person John learnt a lot from. She taught him that irrespective of the ways people treated him, he should treat them with love and respect and that would, in turn, influence how they now treated him. She told him of the time her husband wanted to chase her away from the house because he wanted to marry another wife. John’s grandpa beat her and denied her their conjugal rights and refused to give her money or let her go to the farm to make some money for herself. Yet, grandma Betty refused to allow that influence the way she responded to him. Instead, she always submitted to her husband, she always sang praises of him in public and when they were at home, she always made sure that she prepared the best of meals for him and the children. And soon, Grandpa began to realize the error in his ways and thus began to treat her just as she treated him. When John learnt this from Grandma, he always made it his job to treat people not as they treated him but as how he wanted them to treat him.